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To choose a positive mindset.

pexels-photo-415380.jpegMy morning started out in a bad way. I had an appointment in the hospital about a subject that the doctors kept dodging direct questions about. On my way to a new clinic and a new doctor I had never been to, I spilt coffee all down my shirt. I forced myself to laugh about it despite being nervous about the appointment.

Sure enough, I was told by a doctor who didn’t know me, that I had a some difficult choices to make between 3 high-risk options. I asked him if he was in my position what would he choose and he told me he didn’t know because they were all bad options but my only options. He explained the worst-case scenario about each option, and the risk of each decision. However all the doctors involved have decided upon a particular path, yet I was told it ultimately was my decision.

I had not been expecting this, as the doctors that I was familiar with wouldn’t give me clear answers before so I thought that maybe my situation wasn’t so bad. It felt horrible hearing this from a doctor who had never treated me before to explain to me what I dreaded, and wished it had come from a trusted doctor that I had a history with. It would have been more comforting.

After explaining the news to a select few family members they did their research from different clinics and came upon some very uplifting and positive results. You see, the doctor never explained BEST CASE SCENARIO. Best case scenario isn’t actually all that bad, and is very common. However, I do have other issues with my health that make the doctors nervous about the situation, and provide greater risk, which is why I believe they were preparing me for the difficulties of each choice.

What popped up into my head was a post from Dr Phil, when he talked about one of his previous jobs with “behavioral medicine” that I posted not that long ago on the Everything Better Facebook feed   . He discussed about how your attitude can change how you physiologically react to a medical condition. My few family members who know about it, have suggested that we focus on best case scenario, gearing up my mind and my body for the best, knowing that choosing a positive mindset could really add to a positive outcome.

When I have previously been in the hospital I have found two things that work tremendously (although I will be making more posts about other things that help keep that mind positive).

One doctor during a previous recovery told me to stay away from the news and anything that makes me sad or mad on the TV. They said there was nothing that they had ever seen that was better than humor to help someone stay positive and recover quickly. My favorite shows that I watch that help me keep a smile on my face are:

1. Scrubs

2. The Office

3. Parks and Recreation

and if you like some of the British Humor I recommend Black Books.

The other things I suggest to keep your mind in the positive direction is to build something – I know it sounds silly because it sounds like a kid thing, but whenever I have visited anyone in the hospital who needs to recover, I will always bring Lego. The process of “building something”, keeps the mind focused on creating, and doing something positive. So many people I know who have done the Lego thing in the hospital tell me how they are absolutely amazed at how it changed their mindset from being depressed to feeling like they accomplished something through building. Plus it’s just fun!

This is my basic building blocks (no pun intended) to get myself in a positive mood. There are surely more blogs to come. I hope you are not, or anyone you know facing a difficult medical condition or procedure, but if so, I highly recommend the above.
Since this blog isn’t just for readers but also for me, please let me know if you have any suggestions that would help me with my upcoming decisions and medical procedure. Thank you!

“Stay in your Sandbox”


So today I had a conversation that brought up a saying “Stay in your own Sandbox”.  It refers to the idea that if we all played in our own sandbox and stopped worrying about what castles other people were building or have created or destroyed in their own sandbox that we would all be happier.

I was reminded of this idea recently as someone close to me has not understood that most of their issues come from getting themselves into other people’s sandbox. They can’t seem to understand that they need to focus on what they are building, what they are destroying or how to fix or create their own world without getting into other people’s business. There is a constant stream of advice on what we should do or what would “fix” things without proper understanding of the exact situation. Nor  are they taken seriously because they don’t seem to be working in their own sandbox.

It doesn’t mean that this person isn’t loved or dearly regarded but it adds to any drama that you or others may be going through to receive opinions that have not been properly thought out. No one needs that extra interference and there is a large chance no one is going to take your advice if there isn’t proof that you have succeeded with building your own sandcastle in your own area.

I am an opinionated person but I know that no matter what advice I may give or offer (when asked – and sometimes when it’s not) that at the end of the day – I need to stay and work on my own sandcastle. Make sure that sandcastle is stable and still standing as that’s the most important place anyone can be. In their own sandbox.

Happy Building!